Why don’t you just relax?
It sounds easy doesn’t it? Well for me it’s not, I’ve
realized. If I could just “relax”, everything would be fine and this blog
wouldn’t exist.
For the past week I have been practicing relaxing techniques
in efforts to relax my pelvic floor muscles. And it is HARD! First of all, in
general I do not relax. I am always stressed out about one thing or another. I
try and catch myself throughout the day to gage my state and most of the time
my shoulders are tensed up and my pelvic floor muscles are tight.
Each night before I go to bed I have been practicing
relaxing techniques. The first thing I’ve tried is guided relaxation which
always results in me falling asleep (I guess that means I was really relaxed).
I also do breathing exercises and trying to get my muscles to feel not tense. Maybe
I should just see a hypnotist…it always seems to work for people at the fair. I
mean how else would you get a mangy looking old guy to play his bum and his
neighbor’s bum like an instrument? (I actually witnessed this :P)
I am so anxious to get things going because practicing
relaxing for 40 hours (what my PT recommended) does not seem like progress to
me. However, in the back of my head I know this is what I have to do to be able
to get to the next step.
In the great words of Frankie Goes to Hollywood, Relax! Don’t do it! (or in my case Do IT!).
Keep up the great work. I know it can feel slow but its so much more successful when you do it "right." PS Have you ever heard of Alexander Technique? I had a private instructor in it during college and I use a lot of the techniques I learned then, for my Vaginismus now. Especially something called "active rest." Anyway, it might be something to look into in terms of relaxing everything (not just our pelvic floor muscles). I'm always a stresscase too...so I rely on my past lessons.
ReplyDeleteI haven't heard of the Alexander Technique...I will definitely look into it though. Thanks!
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